A lot of people blame George Bush.
A few people blame Saddam.
Some people blame Al Qaeda. (Mostly two elderly women sitting at a nearby table while I ate lunch a couple of weeks ago).
Some people in the Middle-East blame the people in the West.
Others are still trying to figure out whom to dish their blame out to.
Someone has to be responsible for this mess, right?
Tim O’Brien wrote that there was always someone to blame in “The Things They Carried”.
“When a man died, they had to be blame. Jimmy Cross understood this. You could blame the war. You could blame the idiots who made the war. You could blame Kiowa for going to it. You could blame the rain. You could blame the river. You could blame the field, the mud, the climate. You could blame the enemy. You could blame the mortar rounds. You could blame people who were too lazy to read a newspaper, who were bored by the daily body counts, who switched channels at the mention of politics. You could blame whole nations. You could blame God. You could blame the munitions makers or Karl Marx or a trick of fate or an old man in Omaha who forgot to vote” (O’Brien 177).
Does blame change anything? Maybe it makes you feel better, get some closure, but it cannot change the past. When I think about it, blame cannot really change the future either.
Should we turn the blame over to President Obama for requesting a few extra billion for the war? If we do decide to blame him, what good would it do?
Should we blame the media for not telling us the whole truth?
Or, better yet, should we blame the soldiers for volunteering? Because if there were no soldiers then there would be no war.
Maybe I would be less skeptical about the joys of blame if there was one clear choice as to whom I should blame. Maybe not, too.
Maybe I should blame myself, for not knowing more than I do, or caring more than I do, for not protesting like the kids of the Vietnam era did, or for not writing a newsletter telling the real civilian casualty figures or for not volunteering myself. But I don’t blame myself. And I don’t blame you, or your neighbor or his cousin in Florida or his ex-girlfriend in Sacramento–mostly because blame does not solve anything.
What matters is caring at all.
Artist Jeremy Deller is promoting conversation and empathy through a new exhibit “It Is What It Is” at the New Museum and on YouTube. Deller took a car destroyed by a roadside bomb in Iraq around the U.S. and filmed people reacting to it and speaking about the Iraq war and all of the videos are posted on YouTube.
Read about it here: How artist Jeremy Deller is bringing the Iraq war home to Americans
In a land that worships the car, people want to know what happened to this smashed, scorched vehicle. Deller and his cohorts – an Iraqi citizen who worked for the Americans and now must live in exile, and a US soldier who served in Iraq – tell them. “The car was destroyed in a major attack on a book market in the cultural centre of Baghdad in 2007,” says Deller. “The street itself was totally destroyed, 35 people were killed, and hundreds were injured.” Conversations about Iraq, inspired by this information, then ensue, all of which are filmed and posted on YouTube. As Deller says: “It’s the conversation piece from hell.”
The conversations that ensued are not only honest but most of them shy away from placing blame on anyone and everyone all at once.
Here are links to two of the videos:
It Is What It Is: The Mall, Washington, D.C.
It Is What It Is: New Orleans, LA.
Find more videos in the series by searching “It is what it is” on www.youtube.com